Most people find change hard, particularly without any support or guidance.
The greatest difficulty about change is when you’re not taking the right action to help yourself create the change, either because there’s a part of you not willing to let go of the old, or some kind of lingering resistance in your subconscious, also known as your bodymind.
Change requires our willingness to think, say and do things differently.
This means trying new things and being willing to undertake tasks that you’ve never done before, such as finding reasons why you can try something new, instead of why you can’t.
Old stories and ways of thinking perpetually create the feelings that we experience on a daily basis, which can often lead to overwhelming emotional stress and increasing automatic negative thoughts (ANTs).
The first aim is to get out of your head and step into your heart space, so you can slow your thinking and tune into how your body is feeling about the change you’re wanting.
This way you’ll consistently learn to become present, and more adept at noticing what’s really coming up for you under the surface of your thoughts.
The following tools can are all fantastic methods of helping you achieve this:
- practice the deep and conscious breathing to come out of the feelings and into your body,
- relaxation exercises to quiet the mind and relax the body,
- meditation to focus the mind away from thinking into feeling,
- visualisation to focus the brain on creating new associations of what you want,
- journalling exercises to understand past and present feelings better, and
- tapping (EFT) exercises to train your nervous system to clear out emotional residue in the energy systems.
By doing this when you feel overwhelmed, you will gradually train your nervous system to return to balance (homeostasis) more often, instead of being excitable and quick to overspill.
The next steps are based on my original “3 C’s Formula for Changing Thoughts”:
- Catch the old stories and worrying thoughts,
- Challenge the outdated thinking that causes you stress, and
- Begin to consciously Change your thoughts, words and actions.
- Be Consistent and Conscious in catching your thoughts.
- Choose your thoughts and words wisely.
By using my Three C’s Formula that I teach in my professional Holistic Life Coach Certification regularly, you’ll start to become conscious of what you are unconsciously thinking and feeling, which will in turn help you to change how you feel, to ultimately change how you react or respond.
If we keep thinking, speaking and doing the same things, we will continue to feel the same and nothing will change.
For change to occur, we need to commit to taking daily consistent action to change ourselves, because no-one can do it for us. It sure makes it a lot easier with someone who can show us the way!
A professionally qualified Holistic Life Coach can help guide and support you to rewire both the conscious and unconscious minds to align in thoughts, beliefs, values and behaviours. They can help you pull out the root cause of self-sabotage and outdated patterns to rewrite your subconscious from the inside out and replace outdated stories.
Featured image by Alexandra Fuller on Unsplash.
Author:
Viki Thondley
Viki Thondley-Moore is an Integrative Holistic Counsellor, Brain-Based Coach, Clinical Hypnotherapist, Mind-Body Somatic Practitioner, Wellness Coach, Meditation Teacher, Educator and Disordered Eating Specialist. Viki is founder of MindBodyFood and Founder/Director of the MindBodyFood Institute.
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